For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. –Colossians 2:9-10
In my first foray into Spiritual Life Coaching I learned that one of the foundational principles of coaching is to believe that the coachee/client is Capable, Creative, and Complete in Christ. The idea is that everyone I meet with to offer coaching, already has all that they need within them. I make the assumption that the coachee is capable of finding their own solutions, creative enough to know what to do, and complete as a person. At first, it sounds funny; but in reality if the coachee isn t one of these things then they need therapy, counseling, or professional medical help. (Thus the difference between coaching and counseling.)
As I ve thought over this principle I ve discovered how wholly freeing that is to me as a pastor. Those who are pastors are always supposed to have the answers, or at least it is insinuated that way sometimes. For example, I remember having a problem with a soccer team I coached last year, and telling someone that I needed to speak with somebody about how to control this rowdy bunch. They then reminded me that I would be the one to ask! For example, it is also assumed by those around me that because I work with kids for a living that somehow I have a better handle on raising my own. That might be true in some situations, but you must know that my parenting skills are a journey to discovery everyday. A journey of discovering how much I really suck at it sometimes!
Here s where the power of Colossians 2:9-10 comes in. If I assume that the parents, children, and families that I work with are complete in Him , then they already have the solutions within them to solve whatever is keeping them from experiencing God s very best. Then the burden is only on me to help them discover what s already within them. It s liberating to me that I don t have to present the right and perfect way for them, but that I only have to help them discover the passions, values, and purpose already existing inside of them.