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Fear of Commitment


In a previous post I addressed the idea of seizing opportunities, and the two fears that keep us from grasping those opportunities when they come available.   The first fear that leads to us missing opportunities is the fear of our own weakness. The second fear is the all too common fear of commitment.

Numbers 13:32 “The land is too large to conquer.”

The Israelites used this as an excuse, because they were afraid of the commitment they would be making.   They looked at all that God promised, and wondered how they could ever achieve all of that.   The sad truth is that God never intended his promise to be an overnight project.   Instead of seizing the opportunity to take the promised land, the Israelites were scared away by the audacity of the task before them.   The had their eyes on the destination, but failed to see the value of the journey.

Moses would later address this to the children of the missed opportunity.

Deuteronomy 7:22 “When the Lord your God forces those nations out of the land, he will do it little by little ahead of you. You won t be able to destroy them all at once; otherwise, the wild animals will grow too many in number.”

I love it.   Little by little.   What a great promise to me as I sometimes get spooked by what opportunities God might be setting before me.   God isn’t asking me to be an overnight success as a father, husband, or servant.   He’s asking me to seize the audacious opportunity, and have faith that he will help me little by little.   Don’t be scared of the bigness of your own dreams!
Learn to see the value in the journey.   After you’ve seized the great destination that this new opportunity presents, it’s time to enjoy the ride.   Let God speak to you day by day, little by little.   See the journey by spending less time always looking ahead at the difference being made, and spending more time letting God teach us through the journey.

Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they together live out their days with two sons and a daughter. Jonathan serves as one of the Pastors at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, Tennessee; where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop Christian community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. His journey has been an adventurous one, having served in the local church for 15 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big spiritual steps with their families.