I’ve been thinking lately that it’s really hard to be 100% who you really are in the online world. I was reading this great Donald Miller blog post last week about his own struggle to promote a book that is about his promotion of a movie that is about a book that is about his life (that’s a mouthful.) He says,
I share what will make me look good. If I am vulnerable, I share just enough vulnerability to be perceived as vulnerable, rather than to actually humiliate myself so that others can talk more openly about their own insecurities. I also leak in my accomplishments, and I’ve become a master at it. I don’t even know I am doing it half the time, and the other half I strategically list my accomplishments so that they come off as dismissive or “in passing.”
Writing on this blog can be therapeutic, cathartic, enjoyable, and a struggle all at time. I struggle with how much of myself to insert into each post, and how much of myself to hide. Do I insert more of my personal life, or keep it strictly business? Do I share my vulnerabilities, or only highlight my successes? Is it even possible to share all my vulnerabilities and still maintain a semblance of authority in the eyes of my readers? Isn’t all this blogging really just a great public way to highlight the things I want you to see and read about me?
I spend hours reading articles, blog posts, and community forums for inspiration; and I’m choosing to realize that when I do I’m really only reading what the writer wants me to see. And I choose to believe that’s good enough for the time being. It’s all I’m given by the writer, and I choose to imagine the best in their intentions. And all this makes me terribly thankful for close friends that allow me to be stupid from time to time… in a very non-public forum.
So blog writers… how often do you write the deleted blog post? How often do you hide in your writing? Am I alone?