I’m a dreamer. I don’t mean it in some creative, “I have a dream” sort of way. I mean I actually dream. I can honestly say that I have a dream almost every night. I will have a dream if I lay down and take a 20 minute nap. Before I was married, I never knew it was so strange to dream this much. Others tell me that they never dream at night; and if they do it’s rare. So why do I dream so much? Let me tell you about these dreams, and then I’m gonna jump on your shrink couch and let you help me with some dream interpretation.
I dream in color. I dream with vivid and real-life detail. Sometimes my dreams involve people I’ve only met once, like a memorable cashier at the grocery store; and sometimes I dream about people that I’ve never seen. I do dream the most about people I know very well. The thing is that people behave differently in my dreams than I have to assume they ever would in real life. You should see yourself in my dreams!
I dream terrible nightmares. I’m not someone tormented by nightmares, but when I have a bad dream it is hardly forgettable. I have a couple of doozies that I had when I was much younger, and they still give me chills when I remember them. Something about my dreams (and unfortunately nightmares) seem terrible realistic to me. Often times when waking up from a dream, I have to walk around the room and convince myself it was just a dream. Yes, I walk around and talk to myself. What of it?
I dream about conflict. Many of my dreams involve a great conflict that I’m struggling through. And I’m talking real-life conflict, not fighting aliens. These dreams involve me trying to decide the best way to fire someone at work, or how I can have a difficult conversation with my wife, or asking someone for money. And it should be noted that rarely does the conflict actually occur in my dream, the dream itself is all the things leading up to the confrontation.
I dream about things I love. I’m 35 years old, and I still dream of quarterbacking the Dallas Cowboys or hitting leadoff for the Texas Rangers. Strange, right? It should also be noted, that in these dreams I’m as confused as you are as to how I can do these things, but people in my dream tell me I can. If they believe it, then I have to believe it too…right?
Which leads me to the big one. I have one recurring dream. The scenario changes from dream to dream but it always includes the same thing. The dream involves everyone telling me something is right, that I know is wrong. Sometimes I’m accused in my dream of doing something wrong. The thing I’m accused of doing I have no memory of doing, but somehow I know I did it. Then in my dream I’m trying to make it right, but everyone in my dream will tell me it was allright. For instance, I’m accused of stealing money from someone and I’m working feverishly to turn myself into authorities, but my best friends are telling me not to. My entire dream will consist of dialague around the topic of me trying to do the right thing. I also have a variation of this where somebody I know has done something terribly wrong, but I’m the only one that thinks so.
So Dr. Frued-like reader…what does it all mean?
Or why don’t you share your most common dream?
You do dream, don’t you?