Navigating the dangerous, yet rewarding waters of Church Staff Relationships takes a certain kind of courage. It first takes the courage to figure out what it is that you want. Then it takes even more courage to take the next step of actually moving in the direction you want to go. Again, it sounds silly doesn’t it?
What is it going to take for things to flourish in your staff relationships? What are you going to have to DO to make things get healthy and stay healthy?
Those I Lead -> This should be the easy one, right? As the leader it falls on us to ACT on those things we have defined. You’re the leader, implement with honor and integrity what you want to see in your area of responsibility. One way to do this is to encourage feedback in individual settings, as it pertains to the team as a whole. As the leader you are the standard bearer, act like it!
Those I Cooperate With -> It’s upon you as a coworker to CHANGE what you can about your relationships to bring about what you defined. Change yourself first, then act patiently to change others. (Knowing they might now!) I’m sure you’ve heard the famous Ghandi quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” It’s especially true in the peer staff relationships at our churches!
Those I Follow -> In this hard place of moving in the direction you want to move with your own leader, it falls on you to INFLUENCE your leader in creative ways to help bring about the defined goals. Do not, I repeat, do not walk into your bosses office and tell them exactly what you are doing to improve your relationship. That would be a relationship-killer! Instead pray and act honestly and openly with your senior leadership. It’s imperative that you prove you can be trusted, before being completely honest and open about your goals.
So you’ve defined the goals, and now you are acting to make it happen. Let’s all agree that it’s hard to move when you’ve grown comfortable (even when unhappy), but let’s also agree that moving is what has to happen for things to change. I believe in you!
What are you willing to change to make it happen? Dare you to leave a comment and tell me!