2012 was a year of great transition for my family. We left the familiar and moved into the adventure of something new. We are 4 months in, and my family has proved more than up for the challenge. Part of our transition has been to move on from where we’ve been. Not just our physical presence, but where our hearts, thoughts, and prayers have been for years.
Here are some ideas from one who has worked hard to move on and to move along well from where I’ve been. This list doesn’t assume that you wanted to move on, nor does it presume to think that you moved out from where you were well.
- Be positive. I don’t care who you are or what you did before, there is always some positive to you leaving. Maybe the positive is in who gets the new opportunity with you leaving, or maybe it’s with the new place you’re leaving for. There is always positive, and it’s your job to find it. Would you want people to speak well of you after you’ve left? Then work hard to speak well of where you’ve been.
- Walk slowly. A rushed exit is always a bad exit. Now, if you were hurriedly moved along from where you were by someone else; then you need to walk slowly to your next destination. There is no need to hurry. Take the time to make a long walk to your next adventure, taking no short-cuts to get to your dream.
- Pray. The hardest thing for me was leaving the people and work that I had invested so much time with. You can’t turn that off quickly, and you should actually never turn it off as far as prayer is concerned. Pray for that ongoing building project, pray for the leaders that took your place, pray for the servants that fill your absence, and pray for the investment you made. It’s just smart stewardship, and moving along doesn’t mean you leave it all behind.
- Be honest with yourself. There are things you need to do differently in your new place and there are things you need to change about yourself. Your experiences where you’ve been are a big part of helping you discover what these things are.
- Move on. It seems obvious, but there comes a time that you just need to move on. You can’t change the past, you can’t correct mistakes, you can’t influence where you no longer have influence, and you are being called to something new. Find that new something and move on from where you’ve been.
I know that others have moved on before. Some well, and some not so well. I’d love to hear what those more experienced than myself could add. What is some good advice for moving on well?