Affirm the Parent


We can create relevant environments and put our leaders in the best possible position to start relationships, but it’s imperative to remember that for all our children and many of our teenagers, it’s the parent that brings them to church. Here are 10 ways to affirm parents that attend your church each week:

    1. Tell them you’re glad they are there.
    2. Smile.
    3. Find something (anything) to encourage them with.
    4. Tell them their family is beautiful.
    5. Help them find their way around.
    6. Remember their kids name.
    7. Smile.
    8. Make everything secure and safe, but keep it friendly. (See #2 and #7)
    9. Help them look awesome in front of their kids.
    10. How about just saying,   I am so glad you chose to bring your kids to {insert church name} this weekend. I know it s not always easy, and I appreciate what you did.

It’s hard to get your family to church sometimes, and ALL of those parents that attend are acceptance magnets. Give them what all of us are looking for…acceptance and affirmation.

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Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they've adventurously grown their family with two sons and a daughter.

Jonathan is currently the Groups Life Pastor at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, TN, where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. Having served in the local church for 12 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big leadership steps with their families.

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  • Chris Gagner

    I’ve also found that helping someone get connected into a smaller group such as sunday school, helps them get connected. The more connected a parent is to the church, the more likely the student will also get connected in their age group.

    • Jonathan Cliff

      That’s a huge thing, Chris. If we can’t connect parents to the church “as a whole” then the whole kid thing won’t matter much.