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Introvert Talk Back


I’ve written about my understandings of introverts and along with that my understanding of myself along the way. But as I’ve written and talked and shared with others what I’ve learned, I’ve been put in a box of sorts. I don’t like fences. Don’t fence me in. Sing it now…

Let’s be clear.

There are introverts and then there are introverts. Not all are created equal.

On the scale of 1-100, with 100 being the never talking introvert, I’m somewhere around the 50 mark. Again, not all introverts are created equal.

Introverts are not necessarily submissive. Just because I get energized by time alone, doesn’t mean you can walk all over me. I have opinions. Some of them are strong opinions.

I’ve come to believe that many kind-hearted extroverts are terrified of introverts. Don’t be scared. Just be yourself, I’d expect nothing less.

Introverts do like to talk. I may be the most verbal person you ever meet. I love to talk. I’ll talk myself out of something if I talk enough. I process things verbally, and I don’t even need anyone to talk with…although I’d prefer an actual person to talk with.

I may not ever be the guy with a lampshade on his head at the party, but I can still be a lot of fun. Please invite me along for the fun.

I’ll gladly wear the lampshade on my head if you put me on stage with a few thousand people around to watch. Something in my introverted-ness that shakes that off pretty easily for performance sakes.

I’m private by nature, but this is something God is changing in me. I don’t want to be guilty of using my unique personality as an excuse to be a jerk. (This one is for the introverts out there…)


Thanks for the listen. Calling all introverts, anyone out there need to add to this list? Anything I’m not clear enough on?

Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they together live out their days with two sons and a daughter. Jonathan serves as one of the Pastors at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, Tennessee; where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop Christian community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. His journey has been an adventurous one, having served in the local church for 15 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big spiritual steps with their families.


  1. Karyn · May 28, 2013

    I’m grateful that you visit this topic often. I’m asked at times how I can be the Children’s Minister if I’m not an extrovert. Your descriptions are perfect!!

  2. Faye · June 11, 2013

    I can speak/preach for an hour with no problem before an audience, just don’t pair me with a stranger…I lose my tongue.
    With someone I know, talking is easy, but I’m totally awkward at getting to know someone. It usually happens when we are with others.

    I have a great wit. I’m funny and fun. I want to be included. Too often I’m not.
    That causes me to feel unwanted.