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Giving my Kids the Right Voices


What does my child need to hear from others?

In whom could I trust with encouraging my child s natural gifts?

What voice is now missing from my child s life?

Who are the good influences in their life now?

Every child is different and responds to voices in different ways. I ve got a son that loves words of affirmation, and I will do nearly anything to bring him along with me so that he can hear words of affirmation from others. I ve got another son that wants to put himself to work alongside anyone needing help, so I will bring him with me for projects where others are all working together. The words they both hear from these experiences are added voices they need from someone not their father.

There is great value in my kids hearing words from others that are the same words they hear from their mother and I. Many times these same words from others seem to carry an extra power in the psyche of my kids.  When I find a good friend that brings out the good qualities in my children, I will go out of my way to bring them into my home and take them with us on family trips. I purposefully seek out great friendships for my children, and then encourage them. The addition of these good relationships can help to subtract the less healthy ones in ample time.

One great place to find the right voices are at a church that values small group relationships. If I m looking for voices that will spiritually encourage my kid s growth, then there is no better place than church! I m working hard as a parent to be intentional about what my children discover about having a relationship with Christ, and so we make these Christ following adult voices a priority in our home.

It is an intelligent parent that takes advantage of the church when it comes to the right kind of relationships. Our children have had the advantage of patient, grandparent-ly voices at church. They have listened to the passionate voices of college students that think they can conquer the world. They have heard the parents of their friends encourage them in their pursuits.

Before you go further as a parent today, take some time to think through who your child should be listening to. Is it a friend that they share likes with? Is it an adult that has inspired you, and you want your son to meet? Is it somebody older, wiser, and more educated than you? Is it someone younger and more ambitious than you? Is it a business entrepreneur, a devoted follower of Christ, a retired schoolteacher, or is it all three? Do the math and begin today by adding the right voices to your child s life.


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Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they together live out their days with two sons and a daughter. Jonathan serves as one of the Pastors at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, Tennessee; where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop Christian community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. His journey has been an adventurous one, having served in the local church for 15 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big spiritual steps with their families.