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Handling Offense

benefit-of-the-doubt

Fact #1: The people you interact with the most will be offended by you at some point.

Fact #2: This doesn’t have to be an everyday occurence.

With as many interactions as you have on a daily basis, it’s inevitable that you will eventually cross the line into offense. I’ve found with my own experence that this is usually not because I’m intentionally trying to hurt someone, but instead is caused by my insensitivity, failure to listen, being prideful, or choosing to be dogmatic about one of my opinions. It boils down to this, when I offend…it’s rarely on purpose. It’s usually because I’m self-centered in some form.

This doesn’t excuse my behavior, but it does help me better understand others. It helps me realize that when I’m on that other side of offense, that I should give others the same benefit of the doubt that I want them to give me. Love that phrase, “the benefit of the doubt.”

benefit  of the  doubt

  1. A  favorable  judgement  given in the  absence  of full  evidence.

Go ahead and read that definition over again. The absence of full evidence. That’s good people, really good.  Could we choose to be favorable towards others, even when they hurt us?

Matthew 11:6Blessed is the one who  is not offended by me.

Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they together live out their days with two sons and a daughter. Jonathan serves as one of the Pastors at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, Tennessee; where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop Christian community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. His journey has been an adventurous one, having served in the local church for 15 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big spiritual steps with their families.