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Insecurity’s Goal


The most surprising thing I have learned about insecurity is that insecurity makes you selfish and self-focused. Ironically it is the opposite of what I thought I was. I thought I was being sensitive to the needs and perceptions of others, but I was only sensitive to others because of how it impacted me. If my boss didn’t praise me for a project, I assumed that I must have done something wrong. Never mind that he might have a hundred other priorities that day. The fact that he didn’t take the time to praise me must mean that I had done something wrong. If a friend didn’t return my phone call, she must be upset with me. It couldn’t be because she had an insanely busy day and didn’t have a chance to call me back.

The goal of insecurity is to keep us fixated on ourselves, wallowing in our “I am not enough” fears.

Jonathan Cliff is married to his wife Starr and they together live out their days with two sons and a daughter. Jonathan serves as one of the Pastors at Grace Community Church in Clarksville, Tennessee; where he works with leaders throughout the city to help develop Christian community that leads to deep and meaningful spiritual friendships. His journey has been an adventurous one, having served in the local church for 15 years in family ministry developing leaders, building environments for kids and students to belong, and encouraging parents to take big spiritual steps with their families.