I’d like to help you take care of the introverts in your life. We love you and want you in our lives and we need you to help us at times. Consider it a respect issue. We don’t need you to cater to us, but if you are an extrovert and you live with an introvert, or work with an introvert, or your friend is an introvert; then you could learn a little something from these resources:
Caring for Your Introvert: The habits and needs of a little-understood group
Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?
If so, do you tell this person he is “too serious,” or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?
Losing friends can be particularly difficult for introverts because we don’t surround ourselves with people. We prefer a few intimate friends to lots of less-intense friendships, and deep discussion with one person to a party full of festive chitchat. For us, losing one good friend can leave a larger hole in our lives than it might for an extrovert with 25 best friends.
So let’s take a look at some insight that will help you understand and relate to your introverted lover, friend, child or employee.
- Enough with the guilt
- Space and understanding
- Build trust
- 2 to Tango
- True communication
And finally, I love this short list of ways to care for your Introvert: