Your kids are hearing voices, but this is a good thing! They literally are hearing voices everyday and all around them. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Who are they hearing from?
Who are the people who speak life into their life?
Who are the ones that have the greatest potential to harm our child s spirit?
First, you should look at where you children spend most of their time. If it s school, then get to know the teachers at their school and the parents that volunteer around them. Maybe they spend hours at the football field after school, and you should spend a little time bending your ears towards the voices they hear there. It should be obvious that the loudest voices in your kid s lives as they get older will be their friends, and getting to know them and their families is a great starting point for hearing what s said in those arenas. Knowing where the voices are gives us a great beginning place as parents.
When we take the time to look at our kid s life from this perspective, it helps us interact better with these voices. Let me be clear, we can’t force people to be kind to our children. However, we can come along side these already existing voices and spot the mistakes and bring correction when necessary.
There will be teachers that get frustrated a little to easy, and there will be coaches that raise a voice when they shouldn’t; these are realities for your children. What s not a given is whether you re listening along so that you can come along your child and bring direction during a difficult season.Finding these voices, can give you the lead to know when you need to affirm, encourage, and even repeat the greatness that they may have heard from others.
One great side effect of simply paying attention is your children will begin to watch your response to the words of others. I ve had my children shoot me a glance when someone around us uses bad language, or if another child reacts disrespectfully to their parent. They are watching me, because I m listening to what they are.
Don t miss your chance to hear the voices. It means you will have to eat lunch with your kids at school, listen to the coach talk to the team after the game, and maybe sit in the front yard and watch the neighbor kids play together. Put yourself in a position of knowledge when it comes to the voices your children hear.