After youâ€™ve looked for the voices and people in your childâ€™s life, and invested the time to add and subtract as necessary, then you are at a place to really flex your parental muscles. Itâ€™s time to show off how powerful you can really be, and begin the heavy lifting of parenting. The good news is that you donâ€™t have to be all-powerful; you just have to learn the schematics of leverage.
There is great power in leverage. For example, I’m not a large person, which has its advantages. I’m not usually asked to help people move, and rarely have I had to move a refrigerator up a flight of stairs. Itâ€™s not that I’m a weakling, because I’ve moved my share of large items in my life. The real key to moving big things is leverage. A 100-pound teenager can move a fridge much faster using a dolly with big rubber wheels than a 300-pound grown man can trying to carry it by himself.
The words our kids hear from those around him do indeed have power, but what we choose to do with those words can make them ultimately life changing.
I’ve written a ton about one of the most strategic things we can do as parents, and thatâ€™s doing some relationship math with our kids. The next step after adding new voices is to leverage the voices they hear for their benefit. I canâ€™t follow up on every single conversation my child has with a friend, nor can I filter every word they ever hear from an adult. I can, though, choose and pick when I take the time to leverage what they hear.