Orange Session: Andy Stanley

Friday Morning we heard from Andy Stanley on that “One Thing” we should be communicating to our church staff. As a leader of staff, I’ve listened to Andy teach on this for years. To say a message like this resonates with me, is a egregious understatement. Love, love, love this truth dedicated to the leaders of our church.

Not So Among You

One Thing that drives healthy staff culture. // and it works in Your family too.

Mark 10:32-37, 41 // Jesus is asked by the disciples for more favor.

42-43 || not so with you.  //  Whoever wants to be great (and it’s ok to want to be great), must become a servant and slave of all.

45 || Even the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.

Healthy and Productive staff cultures are defined by Mutual Submission.

Mutual Submission: I’m here to facilitate your success wherever you and I are on the org chart. Our jobs are different, but we are both essential to the success of the organization.

  • Everyone is equally essential.

The question mutual submission asks: “How can I help?”

Problematic:

  • The lie of “Annointing”
  • The triangle setup on org chart will never see Mutual Submission.

Our leadership style is dictated by this : Even the son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve and give his life as a ransom for many.  

Anointing is not emphasized in NT, it’s all service and serving.

Are the reserved parking spots necessary, really?

  • Do for one what you wish you could do for anyone.
    • The myth that if we do for one we have to do everyone. We don’t!
    • Jesus often only healed the one out of a crowd of many.
  • Systematic top-down method of service.
    • How can I leverage what I’m good at to facilitate the success of others?
  • Create and maintain a sustainable pace.
    • Lack of sustainable pace kills service for others.
  • Celebrate and reward mutual submission.
    • Look for ways to foster this on your team.
    • What’s rewarded is repeated.
      • What’s punished is avoided.
  • Confront your EGO.
    • If you view your staff as only being there to facilitate your success.
    • If your gonna lead this way, then at least admit it to them.
  • Drop the term loyalty from your vocabulary.
    • Not a fruit of the spirit.
    • Anyone who demands loyalty, has a loyalty problem.
      • Jesus just says, “Follow me.” yet always reminded people they could leave when they wanted.

How can I help?

Inviting yourself into their world instead of asking them to serve your world.  

How I react to this glorification determines the path I’ll be on.

God looks at Eternity and asked, “How can I help?”

 

Single Minded, Christ Centered, Biblically Anchored, World Changing Children

This morning for the Orange Conference Opening Thursday session, we were able to hear from Craig Groeschel about parenting.  For most of us in Children’s ministry or parenting, we are all very familiar with the idea behind Deuteronomy 6.  What made Craigs talk so unique is that he shared his own personal family values and things he does as a father to raise his kids to be game changers.  It was a really, really great call to action for all the parents in the room.

So even to old age and gray hairs,

O God, do not forsake me,

until I proclaim your might to another generation,

your power to all those to come. (Psalm 71:18 ESV)

What is parenting success?

THE GOAL:

Unleash single-minded, Christ-centered, biblically-anchored, world changing children.

Deut. 6:4-9 – Moses’ call to parents.

  1. Must enlist supporting voices. ||  
    • Parents will always be the most important voice, but cannot be the only voice.
    • Paul was a supporting voice for Timothy.
    • One of most important things we can do is build up leaders to impart to others.
  1. Raise the expectations. ||
    • Calling is radical and supernatural.
    • ALL our heart, soul, strength.
    • We will rarely ever get more than we ask for, unless we raise the expectations.
    • 1 Cor 13:11 / when I became a man, I left childish things behind.
  1. Keep it Real. ||
    • Make God commonplace in our homes.
    • Pray for things beyond our own home.
    • God is not “a part” of our lives. He is our everything.

Orange: The Messy Gospel

Last night the Orange Conference was kicked off with a great message from Reggie Joiner about the messiness of living the Gospel in today’s world.  I know that many blog posts related to what a speaker says at a conference are just a synopsis, and that’s allright; but the message last night was something my family and I have been living through for over a year.

When we chose to live out the gospel through fostering kids in our community, we couldn’t have known then just how messy and painful it would be.  Here are thoughts and things heard last night as it relates to the Gospel and it’s messiness.

The gospel is messy and painful. What we are compelled to do, is something that is messy. Collide with humanity.

  1. I can’t do what I do, without getting messy.
  2. It’s gonna be messy, because Jesus couldn’t have done what He did without getting messy.
  3. Jesus always challenged. It made things messy.

The gospel connects us all to those who believe. (This is what makes environments like Orange such a fun place to be.)
Jesus didn’t live a sinless life to set a good example. He lived sinless, so he could die for us. // Boom!  This is really great.

  • There is no way to live the gospel without getting messy.
  • Disciples were willing to do the difficult, because they had watched Jesus get messy.
  • There is no way to make disciples without them getting messy.
  • If my kids don’t get messy, I’m not equipping them to live the gospel.
  • I’ve got to help kids see the church as much bigger and expansive than the single one we attend.

We have a Gospel that is paradoxical and mysterious. Grace and Truth. Faith and Works.
Its time to acknowledge the tension of the Gospel and Theology.

Humans are the Living Sacrifice… Because we keep crawling off the altar.

  • Trust a God bigger than our Theology. Tension is necessary. Tension creates balance.
  • Engage In a Gospel that invites us into a bigger story.
  • Gospel is messy, because the cross was messier.

If you’ve never been to the Orange Conference, than take some time and see if it’s a place you could be next year in 2013!

What to do at Orange 2012

Today is Wednesday, and I’m heading to the Pre-Conference Breakouts for Orange Conference 2012. I’ll be presenting over in the INCM learning track, and I’m hoping to meet some great new Kidmin leaders. Yesterday I shared “What not to do”, but today I’m going to share what I WILL be doing this week at Orange 2012.

  • Listen to what others have to say || Sure, I’ll answer any questions you have for me; but I’m going to get my own questions answered.
  • Encourage whoever needs it || Every year I really do want to be an encouragement to somebody. I know that there are people at Orange that our out of work, or maybe they will soon be out of work. There are people hurting because they are the only ones in their churches that carry a daily burden for families knowing Jesus. I want to be a person God works through for them.
  • Eat || Seriously, I’m going to eat at the places I can’t back home. Doesn’t everyone do this? Don’t judge me.
  • Worship Jesus in a fresh way || Orange (and many other conferences) always presents a place that I can give my worship. I love the times of music and openness of praying for others. It’s sometimes my biggest take-away from being away from home.
  • Learn something new || I’m really hoping that this week I can walk away with something I didn’t arrive with. I’ve got to learn some things, and I know what they are, and I’m willing to seek out the methods!
  • Miss my wife and family.

If you’re going to be at the Orange Conference this week, would you come say hello? I’d love to meet you and hear what God is doing in your ministry and life. You can find me in the Bloggers Suite upstairs in the Main Arena. See you there!

The “What Not to Do” of the Orange Conference 2012


This week I’ll hop on an airplane to see some friends, lead a breakout, and let myself breathe a little at the Orange Conference.

These are some things I’m NOT doing at the Orange Conference this week:

  • Interviewing for another job || Seriously, it wouldn’t happen.
  • Avoiding all conversations and hanging out in my hotel room all day. || As a father to three (and sometimes four) it’s tempting, but it’s not why I’ve left my family.
  • Gossip || All get-together type events and conferences are ripe for gossip.  I am not going there this week.
  • Skipping breakouts and general sessions || There is a school of thought that I could get more out of skipping and just talking to someone in the hallway.  I disagree, although I recognize the exceptions when that is the case.  I’m there to learn, I want to learn.
  • Leave early from every general session to avoid traffic || Why would you do this?  You’re only around this crowd a few times a year, don’t be in a hurry to escape them!
  • Tell my wife where I’m eating out || Fella’s, this just isn’t smart.  Don’t force your stay-at-home spouse to compare your great meal at a fun restaurant with friends to their mac & cheese special at home.

If you’re going to be at the Orange Conference this week, would you come say hello?  I’d love to meet you and hear what God is doing in your ministry and life.  You can find me in the Bloggers Suite upstairs in the Main Arena.  See you there!