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Ideas for Moving On

January 7, 2013 — Leave a comment

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2012 was a year of great transition for my family. We left the familiar and moved into the adventure of something new. We are 4 months in, and my family has proved more than up for the challenge. Part of our transition has been to move on from where we’ve been. Not just our physical presence, but where our hearts, thoughts, and prayers have been for years.

Here are some ideas from one who has worked hard to move on and to move along well from where I’ve been. This list doesn’t assume that you wanted to move on, nor does it presume to think that you moved out from where you were well.

  • Be positive. I don’t care who you are or what you did before, there is always some positive to you leaving. Maybe the positive is in who gets the new opportunity with you leaving, or maybe it’s with the new place you’re leaving for. There is always positive, and it’s your job to find it. Would you want people to speak well of you after you’ve left? Then work hard to speak well of where you’ve been.
  • Walk slowly. A rushed exit is always a bad exit. Now, if you were hurriedly moved along from where you were by someone else; then you need to walk slowly to your next destination. There is no need to hurry. Take the time to make a long walk to your next adventure, taking no short-cuts to get to your dream.
  • Pray. The hardest thing for me was leaving the people and work that I had invested so much time with. You can’t turn that off quickly, and you should actually never turn it off as far as prayer is concerned. Pray for that ongoing building project, pray for the leaders that took your place, pray for the servants that fill your absence, and pray for the investment you made. It’s just smart stewardship, and moving along doesn’t mean you leave it all behind.
  • Be honest with yourself. There are things you need to do differently in your new place and there are things you need to change about yourself. Your experiences where you’ve been are a big part of helping you discover what these things are.
  • Move on. It seems obvious, but there comes a time that you just need to move on. You can’t change the past, you can’t correct mistakes, you can’t influence where you no longer have influence, and you are being called to something new. Find that new something and move on from where you’ve been.

I know that others have moved on before. Some well, and some not so well. I’d love to hear what those more experienced than myself could add. What is some good advice for moving on well?

Doing Smart Things

March 1, 2011 — 10 Comments

It’s March, and I’m approaching my 35th birthday. Compared to some people (See Gina and Sam) this isn’t really that old yet, but I feel like I’ve learned a few things over the years. After 12 years of marriage, I’ve learned that there is a right time to say certain things to my wife, and most defiently other times that are not the right time. After 8 years of being a parent, I’ve learned that quiet and solitude are things of the past, and that coaching sports is never as glamorous as they make it sound. After 11 years of living in Texas, I’ve learned that things really are bigger here.

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And after 10 years of working in and around churches with all different sorts of ages (predominantly children), I’ve learned a few other things. Here is that list:

  • Prepare for the weekend. Even when you don’t think you need to, just go ahead and prepare like you need to prepare. I don’t teach every weekend, but I still prepare as if I am. You read that right. I take time to look over Kindergarten lessons, Elementary storytelling segments, and all small group materials. I’m not claiming to be totally 100% prepared, and ready to teach at any level; but I’m at the very least familiar with what’s going on in most every area I’m responsible for.
  • Say Thank You. Simply put, it’s my #1 gift to those that serve all around me. There are a few 1,000 ways to do this, but the easiest of these is to just say it.
  • Clean your shoes. I didn’t say this list was perfect, but I’ve learned that a pair of nicely polished shoes or clean converse’s can go a long way with people. Don’t believe me? Good for you.
  • Speak well of those that don’t speak well of you. There is no easier way to make someone look like a fool than to find positive things to say about that person (hopefully person and not persons…) that continually speaks ill of you.
  • Get good at shaking hands. There is such a thing as a wimpy handshake. If you disagree with this one, then I can guarantee you are offering wet fish handshakes to the rest of us. Come on, firm that handshake up and watch your respect level rise!
  • Be good at what you do. I guess this should be obvious, but whatever your job description is where ever you work; you should be exceeding this and more every day you do your job. Be good at what you do, is my little secret to you. You’re welcome.
  • Do whatever it takes to make kids like you. It is always worth the investment to spend time with children. After a while of being around kids, you’ll learn what it takes to endear them to you. When you’ve done this, then influencing their parents is gravy!

So I’m gonna push away from the advice table now. Here is my official advice from a nobody. But I have one final question:

What am I missing? Add your own advice in the comment section below!

We contribute nothing to the plan of God.  Shocking, huh? I thought so too, when I first heard this statement.  Hang in there with me and let me explain.  We’re talking about contributing to God’s plan.  Of course we contribute to the work of our ministry teams, senior pastors, bosses, family, etc…  I’m asking if you really think you contribute to the plan of God.

First, let’s look at the definition for the word Contribute.

Contribute: To give something in order to help achieve or provide something.

Now, let’s look at the definition for the word Participate.

Participate: To take part or share in.

Interesting, huh?  Can you see where you really don’t CONTRIBUTE anything to the plan of God?   However, he desires us to PARTICIPATE fully.  Revelations 13:8 tells us that God established His plan before the foundations of the world.  There is nothing to contribute or add to His plan.  We instead participate in His plan.  When you believe that you contribute to God’s plan, you put yourself in some dangerous situations.

The Dangers of thinking you CONTRIBUTE:

1. We expect others to work for our contribution.

When we think that our actions contribute so much, we expect others to immediately  line up with what we are doing.  While we each bring our individual gifts to each plan, we need to understand that we are all participating in the same plan.  We have to allow others to participate alongside us.  Your way is not always the only way, and when we work with others through a perspective of participation in God’s plan we will value everyone’s participation.

2. We have a tendency use and abuse others.

When we think we are contributing to God’s plan, we begin to see others as pawns and tools for us to use for our contribution.  When we see every person as participating, we respect the thoughts and actions of others.

3.  We think God is waiting on our next move.

This is a dangerous place to be.  Many would never verbalize, “I have to hurry because God is waiting on ME to take action.”  However, we act as if God is depending on our next move.  Here’s some needed truth: God does NOT wait with baited breath for your next contribution.  He will move whether you do something or not.  Of course, he desires for you to participate and to use wisdom to know His next move and what He wants you to do.  But, he doesn’t sit in heaven “hoping” you do what he “needs” you to do.  Check out what Mordecai tells Esther in the Bible.  Esther is confronted with needing to save Israel.  Mordecai gives her some great advice.

Esther 4:14 For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

I do not want it to come from another place.  But I need to realize that it will if I don’t do what God tells me to.  Instead of wasting time thinking I contribute something to what God is already doing in the world, I should operate with an intense level of gratitude that the creator of the universe lets me participate fully in His plan for the world.

How does participating differ from contributing? Do you think you’re contributing? Do you think God could carry on perfectly fine without you?

Do you look at others as participating alongside you?

Be Like Jesus

April 24, 2008 — Leave a comment
Matthew 5:48
“Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.”

This past Tuesday night I spoke to a small gathering of college students here at the church. I’ll spare you the details of my talk, but as I began to try and apply an application to my message, I just blurted out, “If you want to be more genuine as a believer, then you really just need to be more like Jesus!”

Can it really be that simple?

The application statement for every single sermon ever preached could be, “Be Like Jesus!” In fact, if I had to offer advice for anything (not that anyone has asked for it) but my advice would be to “Be Like Jesus!” I’m going to go rewrite every speech, sermon, or motivational talk I’ve ever given and make sure I finish with the exhortation to, “Be Like Jesus!”

It’s simple yet also profound. I find it frustrating knowing that the answer to all of my life’s problems is to Be Like Jesus, yet being like Jesus has eluded me most of my life. Matthew 5:48 is a great goal, but I’ll never truly meet it. But I don’t take discouragement from the fact that I’ll never genuinely Be Like Jesus, I take encouragement that Jesus was so perfect that because of His perfection I don’t have to be.

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