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I wanted to share a great post by Adam Griffin, the Student Minister at The Village Church. As a parent that prays longs prayers about the future of my sons and daughter; I found this recent blog post to be a real eye-opener. Enjoy!

When I was a boy, my dad asked me, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” To which I frankly answered (quite adorably no doubt), “A daddy.” When my relentlessly realistic dad informed me that no one would pay me to be a father, I told him that I would gladly pay myself.

In 2011 my dream of being a father came true when my son, Oscar, was born. Since that day my hopes and dreams have shifted to what Oscar will be when he grows up. Of course, I like to imagine him growing up handsome, talented, godly and kind, but there’s no way to really know yet. I can be fairly certain he’ll have an affinity for Texas A&M and the Green Bay Packers. There’s little doubt that he’ll have a disappointing hairline, love to eat and sweat even when it’s cold. For the most part, however, I’ll just have to wait and see who he grows up to be.

I often daydream about what a great guy he might be and how well loved he’ll be by others. I daydream that coaches, teachers and pastors will approve of him and even be impressed by him. I envision his peers holding him in high esteem, wanting him around all the time. I imagine that the generation that follows him will admire him. I hold tightly to the thought that, as he becomes a man, he will grow in favor among any and all he comes into contact with. Some of these desires are healthy, and some are prideful.

I have a strong, and certainly not uncommon, desire for my child to be validated by the love of other people. Most parents want their son or daughter to be a lovable person, and it’s that desire that makes John 15:19so important and so transformative when it comes to the way we prepare our children for the future. Christ tells His disciples, “If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” It’s not just John 15:19, either. There are many Scriptures that describe the adversarial relationship that God’s followers will have with those who are not believers.

Reading this, I realized that if God answers my prayer for my son to be a follower of Christ, people will hate him. People will absolutely, unquestionably be repulsed by my son.

To read the entirety of this article please visit: http://www.thevillagechurch.net/the-village-blog/raising-kids-the-world-will-hate 

 

It’s Allright to Dream

September 20, 2012 — 1 Comment

Hopes and Dreams

We live in a world that is always asking us to be realistic. There are voices all around, and inside our heads, that tell us our dreams should not to be too big. There is something that says our aspirations need to be based in some sort of reality, and usually that reality is defined by others.

I disagree.

I disagree because my own life has proved many times over that dreaming gets you somewhere. There have been some big moments in my life (buy me coffee sometime, and I’ll tell you about them) that I specifically look back on as big DREAM moments. The memories of these moments have brought me to a place of gratitude, thanksgiving, and inspiration. The memories of these moments, make me grateful that God didn’t leave them as memories.

You should be allowed to dream. You should be dreaming. You should be praying for the impossible. You need to mute the voices of those telling you otherwise. I have gone through a transition and life change in the past 4 months that confirms all I’ll ever need to know about how real God is. Dreaming gets you somewhere. It doesn’t get you there fast, or efficiently, or painlessly, but it gets you there nonetheless.

Dream please. For all of us out there living with our passion for tomorrow, we need more dreamers. Dream big things, and dream new things. Make the time to think of “what could be” and create the space to “imagine a better place” for you and all of those around you.

“The hope of the righteous brings joy.” Proverbs 10:28

This week Starr and I are celebrating 14 years of marriage by taking the vacation we’ve dreamed about for years. Being alone with her is my favorite pastime. If our last 14 years together were a story, the title would have to say ‘God is faithful.’ God’s faithfulness to us been evident every year for years and years and years. For example:

1998 – We return from our honeymoon in Florida to discover that my job was eliminated while I was gone. I went from full-time employed newlywed to unemployed newlywed. But before the year was up, things miraculously changed and I was making more than I would have been making before. God was faithful.

1999 – Went from assistant to the director to director at my employer, and saw my salary jump. I had no idea what I was doing, this was entirely God. God was faithful.

2000 – We move to Dallas and discover that Starr’s tuition will be 3x what we expected. Then a scholarship comes out of nowhere, and it ends up being cheaper than we could have imagined. God was faithful.

2001 – On the morning that we celebrate the news that we are finally expecting our first child, we watch in horror as airplanes fly into the WTC. It was later that day that someone encouraged us by reminding our new family that celebrations and new life would always trump the funerals and destructions. It was a word of encouragement that I’ll never forget. God was faithful.

2002 – Before Ryan is born, we discover that there is a high probability that Ryan may have contacted an illness in the womb that would lead to hearing loss, retardation, and abnormalities. Waited for a week, and we prayed like we had never before. God was faithful, and we got the good report we so desperately needed. God was faithful.

2003 – Our son Dylan is born, and quickly we are confronted with another medical issue that could require extensive surgery and potential kidney problems with Dylan. After a week in the hospital, the doctors can’t quite figure it out and send us home with our healthy son. God was faithful.

2004 – In the craziest of ways, God allows us to purchase our first home after overcoming an insane amount of obstacles to home ownership. God was faithful.

2005 – What many didn’t know when they hired me to work with Children back in 2003, was that I really didn’t know what I was doing. It was this year, that I began to try some things I had never tried before. It was this year, that I began to dream about ‘what could be’ at the churches I worked at. God was faithful.

2006 – Those who know me know this story well. Lauryn is born, Lauryn gets sick, Lauryn stops breathing, Lauryn spends time in the ICU, Lauryn is close to going on a respirator, and then miraculously Lauryn leaves the hospital a week later as healthy as she’d ever be. God was faithful.

2007 – For the first time in our lives, with all three kids in tow; we would move to take a job at a church in Lubbock. It would prove to be one of the best moves we ever made in our lives. The house in Dallas sold because of a miracle, and every detail of our moving was God inspired. God was faithful.

2008 – We saw God fulfill one of our lifetime dreams, as we came upon an absolutely steal of a deal to build our own home in Lubbock. We never thought the opportunity would be ours to enjoy home ownership in a home we saw built from the ground up. It continues to this day to be one of the best investments we would ever make. God was faithful.

2009 – God begins to flood our lives with friends like we’ve never had before. Some here in Lubbock, and many around the country. Opportunities for me to lead around the country come to fruition, and I really think it was this year that God began to birth new dreams for our family. God was faithful.

2010 – One of my dream job opportunities comes true, and I get to increase my responsibilities at my job in a new and exciting way. What many don’t know is that Starr and I had been praying for weeks about the very opportunity that Trinity gave me. God was faithful.

2011 – Our family enters the world of foster care, and through this experience we would together as a family go through our harshest trials; yet for the most real time in our lives we see the Gospel lived out in our family’s story like never before. God was faithful.

2012 – As we embark on our newest journey together I have the greatest expectation that God will continue to be faithful.

 

I’m a Dreamer

March 15, 2011 — 6 Comments

I’m a dreamer.  I don’t mean it in some creative, “I have a dream” sort of way.  I mean I actually dream.  I can honestly say that I have a dream almost every night.  I will have a dream if I lay down and take a 20 minute nap.  Before I was married, I never knew it was so strange to dream this much.  Others tell me that they never dream at night; and if they do it’s rare.  So why do I dream so much?  Let me tell you about these dreams, and then I’m gonna jump on your shrink couch and let you help me with some dream interpretation.


I dream in color.  I dream with vivid and real-life detail.  Sometimes my dreams involve people I’ve only met once, like a memorable cashier at the grocery store; and sometimes I dream about people that I’ve never seen.  I do dream the most about people I know very well.  The thing is that people behave differently in my dreams than I have to assume they ever would in real life.  You should see yourself in my dreams!

I dream terrible nightmares.  I’m not someone tormented by nightmares, but when I have a bad dream it is hardly forgettable.  I have a couple of doozies that I had when I was much younger, and they still give me chills when I remember them.  Something about my dreams (and unfortunately nightmares) seem terrible realistic to me.  Often times when waking up from a dream, I have to walk around the room and convince myself it was just a dream.  Yes, I walk around and talk to myself.  What of it?

I dream about conflict.  Many of my dreams involve a great conflict that I’m struggling through.  And I’m talking real-life conflict, not fighting aliens.  These dreams involve me trying to decide the best way to fire someone at work, or how I can have a difficult conversation with my wife, or asking someone for money.  And it should be noted that rarely does the conflict actually occur in my dream, the dream itself is all the things leading up to the confrontation.

I dream about things I love.  I’m 35 years old, and I still dream of quarterbacking the Dallas Cowboys or hitting leadoff for the Texas Rangers.  Strange, right?  It should also be noted, that in these dreams I’m as confused as you are as to how I can do these things, but people in my dream tell me I can.  If they believe it, then I have to believe it too…right?

Which leads me to the big one. I have one recurring dream.  The scenario changes from dream to dream but it always includes the same thing.  The dream involves everyone telling me something is right, that I know is wrong.  Sometimes I’m accused in my dream of doing something wrong.  The thing I’m accused of doing I have no memory of doing, but somehow I know I did it.  Then in my dream I’m trying to make it right, but everyone in my dream will tell me it was allright.  For instance, I’m accused of stealing money from someone and I’m working feverishly to turn myself into authorities, but my best friends are telling me not to.  My entire dream will consist of dialague around the topic of me trying to do the right thing.  I also have a variation of this where somebody I know has done something terribly wrong, but I’m the only one that thinks so.

 

So Dr. Frued-like reader…what does it all mean?

Or why don’t you share your most common dream?

You do dream, don’t you?

Hope

January 3, 2011 — 2 Comments

Hope. It’s what drives me to keep doing things that I don’t enjoy.  The hope that one day it will be better, be over, be finished, be [insert word here].  Hope is what helps me on a Monday morning after what seems like dozens of volunteers didn’t show up for a Sunday morning.  Hope is what encourages me when I think of all that could be done, but see how much further there is yet to go.  Hope carries me through when I remember how totally unequipped I am for what my own dreams are.  Hope is Monday Morning.

This new day, that starts a new week, that starts a new year is dripping with Hope.  This day is completely saturated in Hope, and nothing can hold it back.  No matter the circumstances or situations you find yourself in…today is a hopeful day.

Psalm 71:14 But I will hope continually and will praise you yet more and more.