The Lie of Consensus

Consensus is defined as “general agreement among a group.”  You know where consensus comes into play in your life, right?  You want to start moving ahead with your ideas, but you feel you need some consensus from your leaders to do it.  You know what needs to be done, but you want consensus from others before moving forward.  You are burdened with a need that needs met quickly, but you want to build consensus so you won’t feel all alone meeting the need.

The danger with consensus is that oftentimes it stagnates our progress and delays our successes.  In and of itself, consensus is a great thing to have.  There are times when it is absolutely necessary to get others on your side before moving forward on something.  But there are those other times that we use the lack of consensus as an excuse to not obey what we know God has told us to do.

So how do you know when to gain consensus, and when to act quickly without it?  How should I know.  You’re the one working in your church, leading your family, and daily seeking God’s Will for your life and situation, right?  You’re already the expert.

Just refuse to buy into the lie that you NEED consensus to do anything.  Pray and act, pray and act, pray and act, and I believe you will go in the direction that you and your group need to go.

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In Summer || Starr Cliff

Homemade ice cream.

Mornings on the porch with coffee and the dawn song of birds singing.

Visits from family and friends; highly anticipated,  and always better than hoped for.

Floating the river.

Baseball games.

The pool.

Bright nail polish.

Big beach hats.

Georgia awash in green.

Fireflies temping us outside…mosquitoes driving us back in.

Sweet tea in mason jars.

Loud music with the windows down.

Fresh, sweet tomatoes and fragrant basil from the garden,  devoured with slices of  mozzarella.

My gorgeous kids with tanned legs and golden hair.

Skinned knees and bug bites.

A slower pace,  a lighter heart.

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From the time I was a little girl and waited all spring for it to be warm enough to water-ski again, summer has always, always been my favorite. I could go on and on with things big and little that fill my heart in the summer months. These last few months have been hard ones for us (hard is relative of course,  and we are acutely and keenly aware that we have much to be thankful for).  I’m so truly grateful for the timing: that this figurative hard “season” of life has coincided with my literal favorite one. Seeking God and finding Him faithful just comes a littler easier to me with the sun warming my face.

As summer threatens to turn to fall, I’m admittedly a little anxious about what our future holds. But I trust He will be there in the turning and changing of the leaves just as He’s there in the easy,  natural comfort of summertime.

We are Again Circling

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Sometimes you think you know,  believe,  and embrace a Biblical principle…but then you bump up against that principle in a way you didn’t control, plan, or imagine.

This family has circled for most of the time this family has been “this family”,  looking for a place to land. We thought we found it, came in hard for the landing, and put the plane in the hangar. We slammed the door on the hangar and locked it up, thinking we were finished with the circling; didn’t need the plane. We had landed. We were home.

“You don’t even know what your life tomorrow will be! You are like a puff of smoke, which appears for a moment and then disappears. What you should say is this: “If the Lord is willing, we will live and do this or that.” James 4:14

In our hearts, in spite of the warnings of Scripture, we thought we knew what our tomorrows looked like. We read “You don’t know what your life tomorrow will be” and nodded our heads in affirmation, but in our hearts thought “of course we do.” But what we’ve experienced regarding our “landing”, is that the Lord was not willing. The life here in Athens, GA that we were planning on,  was not what He had in mind for us.

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9

And so, we are again circling. God has allowed some sadness and confusion in the changing of our course and in the dissolving of our well laid plans, but we are confident we are in His hands. We have been uprooted, but the master gardener uproots and prunes with tender care, and He will plant us where He wants us.

We are no longer on staff at the church that brought us to Georgia. Resignation from the church did not come easily, but we know that an easy life is not we are promised, or even want. We are waiting on the Lord to see what He has in mind for us. We are prayerful that He will make his plans for us clear, and hopeful that we will bear well the weight of the waiting: waiting for His plans for us to take shape in a way we can see and take firm hold of. We will see what the Lord has in mind,  and we are confident it is for our good. He goes before us.

“But you will not leave in haste or go in flight; for the Lord will go before you… ” Isaiah 52:12

While we are waiting in this in between, we have fixed our eyes on Jesus, and found that He is good. He never disappoints.

I will give them one heart and one way, that they may fear me forever, for their own good and the good of their children after them. I will make with them an everlasting covenant, that I will not turn away from doing good to them. And I will put the fear of me in their hearts, that they may not turn from me. I will rejoice in doing them good, and I will plant them in this land in faithfulness, with all my heart and all my soul.”  Jeremiah 32:39-41

 

Choose Their Friends

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Did you know that if you’re a parent, you can decide who your children are friends with? This plan doesn’t work entirely if you start trying to do this when they are teenagers; but there is some merit to the idea. When your children are little, you are the one that decides who they spend time with and how much time they spend with everyone. Use the opportunity when they’re young to begin doing the little things, and planning for the pre-teen and teenage years.

Screen their friends. It’s simple really. Encourage quality time with those people you want them to be around, and limit the time with those less positive influences. Just don’t become judgemental and separatist in your behavior.

Awareness. Become aware of who they are spending time around and become involved in their social life when the opportunities are there. Regular conversation with the

SchoolBe involved in the social parts of school life. Friendships at school are totally different than church friendships, and can quickly become a loud voice in your kids life.

Be Smart. Specifically in regards to smart phones. A parent who doesn’t know their kid’s FaceBook password is a parent who doesn’t know the company their kids keep.

Make yourself friendly. Make it a goal of yours to become friends with the friends of your kids. Volunteer to drive kids to events, host get-togethers at your house, and do whatever it takes to responsibly become a part of the lives of the kids around your children.

I Corinthians 15:33 “Bad company corrupts good character.”