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Friday Bag #27

March 15, 2013 — Leave a comment

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The Friday Bag is my way of sharing some of what I find online each week. I save it and then I share it. Enjoy!

Living with Less. A Lot Less. “Somehow this stuff ended up running my life, or a lot of it; the things I consumed ended up consuming me. My circumstances are unusual (not everyone gets an Internet windfall before turning 30), but my relationship with material things isn’t.”

PicMonkey: Photo Editor I use this every time I use an image on my site. It’s easy to use, and has about a thousand uses. Go check it out!

Two Enemies Discover a Higher Call in Battle“The pilot glanced outside his cockpit and froze. He blinked hard and looked again, hoping it was just a mirage. But his co-pilot stared at the same horrible vision.” // Any WWII historians out there? You’ll love this story of redemption.

Leaders of Courageous Character. Where are they? “A true leader is more than someone who stands around telling others what to do expecting everyone to fall in line. Certainly a leader is to be a visionary. But a leader is also expected to be an advocate. A team looks to its leader to show them the way. But they also look to their leader for support.”

Michael Jordan Has Not Left the BuildingFive weeks before his 50th birthday, Michael Jordan sits behind his desk, overlooking a parking garage in downtown Charlotte. The cell phone in front of him buzzes with potential trades and league proposals about placing ads on jerseys. A rival wants his best players and wants to give him nothing in return.”

 

Bruce Feiler has a radical idea: To deal with the stress of modern family life, go agile. Inspired by agile software programming, Feiler introduces family practices which encourage flexibility, bottom-up idea flow, constant feedback and accountability. One surprising feature: Kids pick their own punishments.

Talking

I’m a very verbal person, often needing to speak a few thousand words to ever get to my original point. My proneness to being verbal, has also helped me immensely as a parent. As a parent, it’s always a challenge to get your kids to talk with you. Parents of younger kids will think, “What? I can’t get my 1st grader to stop talking!”, but I’m talking about real-life conversations about important things. Do you give your kids the opportunity to have conversations with you?

 

Here are 3 fool-proof ways to create an atmosphere of words in your home

Set aside a time each day that conversation can actually take place. For the Cliff family this is dinner time, yes we still sit together and eat dinner, and bedtime. At those times, we force our lives to slow down or stop altogether, so that we can talk. The dinner conversations are family conversations, and the bedtime conversations are more personal in nature. This is a rhythm our family already has in place, and it’s easy to make it our word friendly moments.

Capture stories worth telling your family. Just last night I talked with the kids about a news article I had read about a young man that got into some serious trouble, because of where he was caught; even though he wasn’t actually doing anything wrong. It wasn’t meant to be dark, but it opened up tons of questions about the friends we keep. Because, ya know…“Your friends determine the direction and quality of your life.”

Ask questions at every conceivable opportunity. The story I refereneced above led itself to tons of questions that I simply asked my kids and then sat back and listened to their responses. I’m not talking about “Why did you do that?” type of questions, I’m suggesting the “What do you think about this?” with this being whatever you were telling them about.

I only have one piece of advice to parents everywhere that may be reading this. The best time to start these habits with your family is the day you bring your kids home from the hospital. Set that car seat up at the table, and talk to your spouse and the rest of the family. It will be a few years before they can answer questions, but you are establishing rhythms that will last for years to some. All this is true, but the next best time to start is right now. If you missed the opportunity early on, then just start now and keep going.

I understand that some teenagers are less than willing to share in conversations with you, that’s why I’d encourage you to just start where you are. If you’ve not established this, you will be coming from behind and you are definitely an underdog; but don’t give up. Find reasons to discover your teenagers opinion and ideas on anything and everything you can!

 

I’d also suggest visiting PBS Parents: Strategies for Talking with your Kids.

 

 

Affirm the Parent

February 25, 2013 — 2 Comments

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We can create relevant environments and put our leaders in the best possible position to start relationships, but it’s imperative to remember that for all our children and many of our teenagers, it’s the parent that brings them to church. Here are 10 ways to affirm parents that attend your church each week:

    1. Tell them you’re glad they are there.
    2. Smile.
    3. Find something (anything) to encourage them with.
    4. Tell them their family is beautiful.
    5. Help them find their way around.
    6. Remember their kids name.
    7. Smile.
    8. Make everything secure and safe, but keep it friendly. (See #2 and #7)
    9. Help them look awesome in front of their kids.
    10. How about just saying, “I am so glad you chose to bring your kids to {insert church name} this weekend. I know it’s not always easy, and I appreciate what you did.”

It’s hard to get your family to church sometimes, and ALL of those parents that attend are acceptance magnets. Give them what all of us are looking for…acceptance and affirmation.

 
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Friday Bag #25

February 22, 2013 — Leave a comment

The Friday Bag

The Power of DuckTales - “DuckTales, the most successful show of Disney’s short-lived television-animation renaissance—and a show that kicked off a brief interest in syndicated afternoon animation from a host of media companies—has mostly disappeared from the limelight,”

 

OpenDNS - The Cliff Family is giving this a try this week. It’s a small attempt to make the Internet safer for our entire family.

How I Have Stayed in Church for 26 Years -  I am often asked by so many people, especially ministers, “How have you stayed in one church or ‘survived in the same church’ for 26 years?” Through God’s grace and grace alone have we been able to do this.”  // Love this insightful look at longevity.

 

So proud to be a part of such a special place this past December. Be Rich 2012.

Friday Bag #24

February 8, 2013 — Leave a comment

The Friday Bag

The 12 Essentials of Church Communications -  “The church is the hope of the world. As church leaders we have the responsibility of communicating the greatest message known to mankind; the only message capable of changing a person’s entire eternity.”

For 40 Years this Russian Family was cutoff from civilization“In 1978, Soviet geologists prospecting in the wilds of Siberia discovered a family of six, lost in the taiga.” // This is an absolutely incredible story of survival. Really amazing, really, really.

4 Signs you will Fail as a Leader - “Outwardly, you appear effective, dependable, on top of things. But look closer. Are you in danger of destructive behaviors?”

Budweisers Clydesdale Ad takes a Dark Turn - Via the Conan O’Brien Show