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Friday Bag #14

September 14, 2012 — Leave a comment

The Friday Bag

Young Men are Educationally and Relationally Doomed - “According to psychologist Philip Zimbardo, young men in America are doomed–at least they are educationally, relationally, and sexually.”

When God Pulls the Rug Out - “Has this happened to you? You read all the signs that were so blatantly from the Lord—“yes, this is the path, go this way, I am with you.” You have been amazed at the way he opened doors—you were scared but you walked through them. The Lord confirmed his will for you through other people too—they were excited that God was doing this. Finally, you were on board. You were excited. You were all in. You had peace about your decision. And then, splat, he pulled the rug out from under you. How will you be able to trust God again?”

APP Recommendation: Calvetica - I am loving this iPad/iPhone Calendar app. Some serious bells and whistles for us calendaring nerds

14 Tips for Telling a Great Story - “Storytelling is a vital component of good teaching and preaching. I hope these guidelines will improve your teaching as much as they have mine.”

321 from Jeremy Poyner on Vimeo.

All week I’ve shared the method behind how I prepare myself and my words for speaking to a crowd.  If you haven’t yet read up, then take the time to catch up now.  We had some great discussion.

The Opportunity to Speak

Preparing Myself to Speak

Remembering the Important Things when Speaking

How I Need to Get Better…and Quick!

At this point, I’d like to introduce you to a page that has been up for a few months now that you might have not noticed.  Up there at the top, and right here with a link you can go to a “Resources” page where you can take a listen to all that I have recently recorded in regards to myself speaking and writing.  I promise to not self-promote with regular blog posts, but instead to just throw what I have up there on the Resources Page.  Enjoy!

However, for this one-time moment and in the spirit of all we’ve discussed this week about Public Speaking let me throw out something I shared recently at my home church.  My pastor gave me a great opportunity recently, and I present it below for all your viewing pleasure.  Much of the material is from the reading I’ve done recently from “The Grace of God” by Andy Stanley, and I attempted to give credit where credit is due.

I’ve spent this week sharing my public speaking journey.  I promise I’m not coming at you from someone at a high-level, but just someone that loves to hear what others do.  I hope you’ve participated throughout the posts, with some great comments.  If you’ve missed, then go read Why I’m Doing This, How I Prepare to Speak, and what I try to Remember when finally speaking.

I want to get better.  I remember being involved in Toastmasters International back in college, and it really kicked my butt.  If you’re unfamiliar with Toastmasters, then you should know that it’s a social club that helps people improve on their public speaking skills.  You are to give speech’s on different topics, of different lengths, with different amount of preparing times; and you do all the speech’s in front of a room of people that then publiclly criticize you.  It’s brutal, and yet the best thing I’ve ever done.

Today, I’m going to bare my public speaking soul and I hope that I hit on some themes you may also struggle with.  If you don’t comment then I have to assume you think you’re better than me…

Here is where I want need to get better:

Cut down on the circular hand movements. Watching myself on video afterwards is something I’ve always done to improve, and the BIG thing I see when I watch myself is all the landing of airplanes I’m doing with my arms and hands.

Eliminate the arrogance. I fear that my confidence sometimes could come across as arrogance.  I feel that with more prayer and understanding, I’ll be able to speak from a place of true humility.  It’s something I’m working on in all aspects of my life.

Use more scripture. Even though many of my talks are centered around scripture, I need to know more of God’s Word to allow me to quickly make scriptural connections.  As I mature and grow in the Lord, I’m getting better; but it’s always a goal in front of me.

Get more help. I’m not sure I get enough feedback from friends and mentors before going with what I have.  I’ll often ask how people think I did when it’s over, but skip the sharing my heart before speaking to see what I may be missing.

 

So do you have things you’d like to get better at?  What are they?  Come on now, open up!

 

 

So I’ve prepared, practiced, and found my confidence to approach the opportunity to speak in public.  What next?  What am I thinking as I speak?  Where do I want to begin?  What is my end-game to the whole episode?

Let’s assume I’ve done my homework, and I’m ready to go.  These are the things I then need to do:

Be Thankful

Whenever I speak anywhere, I always open with gratitude for the opportunity.  This is not the time to poke fun at the person that invited me.  If I show honor to my host, I’ll be invited back.  If I show honor to my host, I ingratiate myself to the new group.  If I show honor to my host, I’m taking advantage of the opportunity to esteem them in the eyes of their own people.  I see too many miss this opportunity, and it’s really sad.

Be Confident

This is something I’ve gotten better at over the years, but I’m still developing.  I’ve got to own that stage, the lectern, the teaching arena, and my material.  Being confident will help me overcome any jitters or nervousness I have.  This only comes from the Lord, as my own confidence is easily swayed.  And this comes by making prayer a part of my preparation, I’d also argue that being truly confident starts months earlier when preparation begins.  This is not to be confused with pride; pride will destroy any chance of effecting change in my audience.

Be Sincere

The greatest public speaking gift I personally bring to the table is an ability to just be myself.  Over and over again when I get feedback from others, it centers on me “just being myself.”  I’m telling you, unless you’re presidentially gifted to speak in public; the best thing you can do is work more of you just being you into your talks.  I share my disappointments, my fears, and my own struggle to live up to the standard I’m speaking about.  The story I’m living is the story that needs to be worked into my topic.

Be Nice, yet Be Honest

When I was younger I made the mistake of often hunting for rabbit with a gun loaded for bear.  There are times that I need to be direct, honest, and hard-hitting; but those need to be planned out and prepared.  I speak from a position of struggle, and learning; and I assume the best of intentions in my audience.  I often have to pray that God gives me the confidence (see note above…) to get through the tough moments.  I’ve yet to be left alone on that stage by the Holy Spirit; even if my talk isn’t necessarily to a Christian or church audience.

Be Short

Even in the blog post, I’m going back and taking out 50+ words to make it easier on the eyes and easier to read.  The same needs to be done in a public speaking setting.  Say what needs to be said, and nothing more.  If I tell a story to illustrate a point, I don’t then need another story to illustrate the story I just said.  I also work to avoid explaining the same point 10 different ways.  This goes back to assuming my audience is intelligent and can follow along.  On a side note: Speaking to children over the years has helped me hone this skill.  Short is always better.

And on that last note…I’m finished.

Anything here that resonates with you?  Do you feel that I’m leaving something out?  Share your comments RIGHT NOW!

 

 

 

Let’s continue this public speaking conversation we started yesterday, and talk about how I prepare myself.  I have a tremendous advantage over those that speak every week.  If I’m traveling to speak somewhere; then I what I bring is new into a new place.  Second, when I’m asked to speak somewhere; it’s so often rare enough in my home location that I get to speak around my passions.  This is a great advantage I have over many that speak more often and more frequently in the same place.

So What’s my Method?

Narrow it Down

When I’m asked to speak I first have to narrow down what I’m gonna talk about.  Sometimes it’s assigned, like in the case of the Illuminate Conference (Coming to Birmingham, AL in August and Austin,TX in November.); but sometimes I get to just pick based on whatever I want.  So how do I decide?  This is going to sound very unspiritual, but I usually can figure out what I want to talk about by answering this question: “What have I been learning lately?”  If I’m learning about it, it helps me feel confident to teach others.  That my friend, is TRUTH.

Hash is Out

Then when I know that I have a general idea of what I want to talk about, I then talk about it.  Seriously.  I’ll setup blank paper in my office, and of course have my Bible open and ready.  I’ll then give myself 3-4 hours to just talk out loud and take notes on where I’m going.  The down-side is that this often gives me about 3 months of material.  But that’s allright.

Think About It

After I’ve narrowed down my topic, and talked it out to myself; I then need to let it sit for a while.  The key here is that I have to give myself time.  This forces me to narrow it down and talk it out weeks and sometimes months, before I need to speak.  It always proves worth it, as the days pass from my “talking it out”, I begin to narrow it down even more.  After prayer, study, and talking with my wife and friends; I’ll discover where I want my time to be used for.  This is when I feel the most led by the Spirit, whether my talk is spiritual or not!

Organize it Out

At this point I have pages and pages of notes, and I’ve thought about what I really want to say.  Here is where I get out the computer, and create a simple one-page (sometimes two-pages) outline.  I stick to the old-fashioned Numerals, bullet points, and use special notations for where I’ll need to input an illustration and/or story to help teach the point.

Practice

It’s simple really.  I practice.  I prefer to stay away from mirrors, but I need to speak it out loud using my one-page of notes.  It’s here that I often come up with real-life illustrations that help me stay relevant and make my message sincere.  It’s here where I can adjust and tweak to fit my time allotment.  I’ve skipped this step before because I failed to give myself time.  It did not work out well.  Practice matters!  This is also where I often memorize what I’m going to say.  Often times I can lose my notes at this time, and it adds to my speaking style and gives me confidence.

So that’s the bare-bones of it all.  I’m dying to know this from you: Where do you do it differently?  Are you a person that writes out every single word on a paper and attempts to read it?  Do you wait til the last minute to prepare?  What do you do?