BY: Starr Cliff
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. -Colossians 3:12
Some thoughts, of late, on kindness.
To “be nice” is a very different thing that showing great kindness. Excerpt from a post exploring this idea: “…kindness emerges from someone who’s confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves…..At the root of extreme niceness, however, are feelings of inadequacy and the need to get approval and validation from others.” So much worth for me in exploring the true intent of the energy I spend in my words and interactions with others. More thoughts here.
People won’t always know what to do with your acts of kindness. They might mistrust your motives, or think you are being weird. That’s okay. Do kind acts anyway. Say kind words anyway.
An easy practice: If you think something nice about someone, SAY IT. Both to them, and to others. If you think something unkind/unflattering/ugly about someone, don’t. Don’t say it. To them or to others.
I so want to raise kind, caring children. It starts by figuring out how to teach them to be kind to one another, and frankly, we can use some work there. It’s always hardest to be kind to those under the same roof it seems.
I was cleaning out a file cabinet this week, and was reminded of a handwritten note I got from a hard-nosed history teacher when I was in 11th grade. It was short but heartfelt, congratulating me on a performance in a high school play. In retrospect, that little note really mattered to me. (Duh. It’s been 20 years and I can still practically recite it.) I had thought in high school that maybe I was “sorta becoming okay at this drama thing”, but that simple note made me feel like I was really good at something. How easy would it have been for him to leave that note unwritten or those kind thoughts unshared? WRITE THE NOTE PEOPLE. You can’t know how it might matter to someone.